tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post3108237529523807480..comments2023-10-24T16:16:29.095+01:00Comments on Club 166: On Raising CowboysClub 166http://www.blogger.com/profile/01816977079856902634noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-27589854696146014072007-04-19T05:18:00.000+01:002007-04-19T05:18:00.000+01:00BWH and Christopher,Thanks for the kind words.As m...BWH and Christopher,<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the kind words.<BR/><BR/>As much as most of America becomes homogenized with one strip mall following another, it's great that the image (and ethos) of the cowboy survives.Club 166https://www.blogger.com/profile/01816977079856902634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-90539206218753409782007-04-19T05:05:00.000+01:002007-04-19T05:05:00.000+01:00Club 166, I love the post. Thank you for linking ...Club 166, I love the post. Thank you for linking back to my Cowboy Code page as a reference. I posted a link to this post, and I look forward to reading more of your blog.<BR/><BR/>I'm honored that you (even in the random thoughts while driving) looked to the Cowboy Persona as something for people to use as a reference to look up to.<BR/><BR/>Ironically, as BWH will tell you, no Cowboy would need such an explanation or reference. We tend to accept people for who they are. It's a shame that the people who would benefit from that explanation may never understand that.<BR/><BR/>If there is anything I can do on my blog to promote Autism Awareness, please leave me a comment and I will be more than glad to post something or put a link in my side bar.CJBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03798381584925362082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-78776737104912684532007-04-18T13:16:00.000+01:002007-04-18T13:16:00.000+01:00Outstanding! You sir need to become a code marsha...Outstanding! You sir need to become a <A HREF="http://cowboycodemarshals.blogspot.com/" REL="nofollow">code marshal.</A><BR/><BR/>I'm glad you found my friend Chris.<BR/><BR/>I'm going email him a link to this post.bigwhitehathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05378526701377764387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-19082371475253173692007-03-02T00:44:00.000+00:002007-03-02T00:44:00.000+00:00...I recently discovered your blog and am loving e...<B><I>...I recently discovered your blog and am loving everything I read! ...</B></I><BR/><BR/>Thanks! I've mostly been a lurker on yours, but I love yours, too<BR/><BR/><B><I>...Without differences the world would be a boring place. From now on I am thinking of my son as a cowboy and we are "bucking the system".</B></I><BR/><BR/>I like the "bucking the system" analogy. Although optomistic that the world will be better for my son then it has been for autistics in the past, I realistically think that he and we will be "bucking the system" for a long time. But that's OK.Club 166https://www.blogger.com/profile/01816977079856902634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-82078195729169087002007-03-01T20:48:00.000+00:002007-03-01T20:48:00.000+00:00I love the comparison to cowboys! I recently disc...I love the comparison to cowboys! <BR/><BR/>I recently discovered your blog and am loving everything I read! You seem to be a great advocate! <BR/><BR/>Without differences the world would be a boring place. From now on I am thinking of my son as a cowboy and we are "bucking the system".Mom without a manualhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03419516888941518587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-45825247213877524602007-02-26T02:47:00.000+00:002007-02-26T02:47:00.000+00:00And you weren't trying to make a veiled reference ...<B><I>And you weren't trying to make a veiled reference to hippotherapy, by any chance..... </B></I><BR/><BR/>Hah! I missed that. On the job therapy for free. :)<BR/><BR/>But funny you should mention that. One of my co-workers is involved with it, having a son that has Down's syndrome. I've been meaning to talk to her to see about getting Buddy Boy involved with it.Club 166https://www.blogger.com/profile/01816977079856902634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-89068668927084499692007-02-26T02:40:00.000+00:002007-02-26T02:40:00.000+00:00...If my own siblings would actually do this, I'd ...<B><I>...If my own siblings would actually do this, I'd be bloody surprised. ...</B></I><BR/><BR/>Someone on a local autism listserve that I am on posted recently wanting help in dealing with their totally non-understanding and unhelpful inlaws.<BR/><BR/>It seemed from the instantaneous flood of responses generated that this is a somewhat universal problem (that being relatives not "getting it"). <BR/><BR/>Most people posted about relatives blaming them for their kids autism or giving them "helpful" tips to control them ("if you'd just beat them more...") which alternated with ignoring the kids when they were present and refusing to help at all (while helping other siblings with NT kids).<BR/><BR/><B><I>When I mention that my daughter is autistic, people tend to say, 'Oh, I'm really sorry!'<BR/><BR/>I then tell them that I am not in the least bit sorry. She's loved for who she is. </B></I><BR/><BR/>That's a <I>great</I> response! I'm filing it away into my repertoire of standard responses to ignorant and stupid comments. Since our kids are also adopted, and look different from us, we get a <I>lot</I> of those kinds of comments.Club 166https://www.blogger.com/profile/01816977079856902634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-12249298712757334672007-02-26T02:28:00.000+00:002007-02-26T02:28:00.000+00:00And you weren't trying to make a veiled reference ...And you weren't trying to make a veiled reference to hippotherapy, by any chance.....kristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01104388229716638534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-41520298671215030712007-02-26T02:26:00.000+00:002007-02-26T02:26:00.000+00:00...I have often thought that is where many of the ...<B><I>...I have often thought that is where many of the aspies of the 19th century ended up, as Cowboys. ...</B></I><BR/><BR/>I've always felt that people tend to self select jobs that are a "good fit" for them, so this would make sense.Club 166https://www.blogger.com/profile/01816977079856902634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-91778494128538981552007-02-26T02:24:00.000+00:002007-02-26T02:24:00.000+00:00...I'm from farm country, not cowboy country, ...T...<B><I>...I'm from farm country, not cowboy country, ...</B></I><BR/><BR/>Truth be told, my mother was born in your neck of the woods, and I have relatives that are dairy farmers up your way.Club 166https://www.blogger.com/profile/01816977079856902634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-22857248276304908202007-02-25T23:33:00.000+00:002007-02-25T23:33:00.000+00:00"First of all, I would love it if, when someone me..."First of all, I would love it if, when someone mentioned their son/daughter/brother/husband was autistic, that the person they were talking to immediately was jealous and wanted to meet him or her." <BR/><BR/>If my own siblings would actually do this, I'd be bloody surprised.<BR/><BR/>I think that they actually resent my having been the family's 'shameful relative' and been as successful as I have.<BR/><BR/>"I think we all have a responsibility to increase positive associations with the term autism. That just doesn't happen to seem what the prevailing public opinion is at the moment."<BR/><BR/>When I mention that my daughter is autistic, people tend to say, 'Oh, I'm really sorry!'<BR/><BR/>I then tell them that I am not in the least bit sorry. She's loved for who she is. The biggest issue isn't the autistic orientation of her perceptual default: it's when others around her don't recognise this and expect more than she is capable of giving.<BR/><BR/>In fact, when people (like me) respect her limits, they tend to get more from her than they bargained for, and that I mean in a positive way.David N. Andrews M. Ed., C. P. S. E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10361832306977383560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-61492032877779470522007-02-25T21:29:00.000+00:002007-02-25T21:29:00.000+00:00I have often thought that is where many of the asp...I have often thought that is where many of the aspies of the 19th century ended up, as Cowboys. I have always enjoyed the Western Genre in Cinema, that whole rugged individualist ethic has always appealed to me.Larry Arnold PhD FRSAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05074432718592268750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-7837189146304852912007-02-25T17:42:00.000+00:002007-02-25T17:42:00.000+00:00Please don't delete the post. I thoroughly enjoyed...Please don't delete the post. I thoroughly enjoyed it. I'm from farm country, not cowboy country, but I loved the philosophy. "He's a cowboy." Gotta love it!Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11647906900944224234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5821799658844915805.post-9113021743317648492007-02-25T05:33:00.000+00:002007-02-25T05:33:00.000+00:00Before anybody takes me to task for suggesting tha...Before anybody takes me to task for suggesting that autism is a "tainted" word, a few words of explanation.<BR/><BR/>First of all, I would love it if, when someone mentioned their son/daughter/brother/husband was autistic, that the person they were talking to immediately was jealous and wanted to meet him or her. I think we all have a responsibility to increase positive associations with the term autism. That just doesn't happen to seem what the prevailing public opinion is at the moment.<BR/><BR/>Secondly, I wrote the above after having gotten three hours of sleep, and then proceeding to work the whole day. Perhaps after I've gotten some sleep tonight, I'll have to erase the above when I see how ridiculous I sound. Or not.Club 166https://www.blogger.com/profile/01816977079856902634noreply@blogger.com